Drive and determination can be the difference between success and failure. After all, if we don’t try, how can we achieve our goals? Success doesn’t typically fall in our laps– we must strive for it!
Given the importance of determination, how can we help our children to acquire it?
(1) Cultivate a growth mindset:
Children need to learn that how they perceive themselves and their ability to succeed can have a dramatic effect on their determination. Help them to shift their attitude away from negative perceptions and expectations to one that shows belief in oneself and the ability to succeed if they indeed consistently try.
(2) Teach them that constant effort often leads to success:
Children often believe that those who are the most talented are the ones who come out on top. Help them to understand that if they put in constant effort, they can succeed as well. Often it’s drive and determination rather than natural talent that makes the difference between success and failure.
(3) Make goal-setting part of your family practice:
Children must learn to set (SMART) Specific, Measurable, Agreed Upon, Realistic and Time-bound/ Trackable goals. By making goalsetting a family practice, children will see from an early age that goals we set are goals we get!
(4) Help them to name, claim and deal with obstacles:
Whether it’s procrastination, perfectionism or panic, there are a lot of obstacles that can get in the way of achieving our goals. When we are committed and determined we find ways to cope with those obstacles so we can overcome them. Help your children name the obstacle that impedes them and discuss (and implement) ways to conquer them!
(5) Put them in environments where grit and determination are taught and rewarded:
When children are in educational environments where determination is part of the lesson plan and the culture, they are more apt to integrate it into their daily lives. That’s one of the reasons we are thrilled to teach your children Powerful Words every month!
Here’s to your success!