This month we will focus on the powerful word; “diligence.” Diligence is when we work carefully, consistently, and with great effort until a task is done. When we work with diligence, it’s much more likely that the task will be done to the best of our abilities.
Dr. Robyn Silverman, developer of the Powerful Words Character Development system and Sidekicks’ child development expert had a few things to say about diligence…
Children who work hard often don’t attribute success to being “smart” but rather, persistent and diligent. When we tell children that effort is the key to their success, they are much less likely to give up and much more likely to buckle down and continue to work hard.
It makes sense then, that studies show that praise for diligence is much more productive and helpful for a child than praise for results or talents. Children sometimes forget that there is a link between effort and ability.
In particular, some children attribute success to how innately “good” or “bad” they are in a particular area. This can be detrimental such that they fail to realize that with additional effort and diligence,
they can do better. Instead, they simply give up or settle for substandard results that could indeed be improved if they tried.
So when it comes to diligence, we are dealing with a question of a “fixed mind-set” vs a “growth mind-set.” A “fixed mind-set” is when people believe that they are only as good as they are today. They think, that if they do poorly, the subject or skill just might not be “their thing.” A growth mindset acknowledges that with effort and persistence, a person can change the results. Helping children and teens understand that effort and ability are positively linked can change mind-set…and results.
Help your children realize the link between effort and results by sharing your successes and how your hard work and diligence paid off. What helped you focus? What kept you going? How did you keep a
growth mind-set even during the tough times? And of course, help them to recognize how their own hard work has helped them reach their goals as well.
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