This month we will focus on the powerful word; “self reliance.”
Self reliance is all about a balancing act; knowing how much to help in order to build confidence and when to let go to build independence. We want to give children enough freedom to encourage exploration and critical thinking without pushing them too fast that they lose their footing. Allowing your children to take on new responsibilities takes gauging their abilities and readiness. In addition, it takes a little bit of trial, error, and faith.
Dr. Robyn Silverman, our child development specialist, has a few words she’d like to share on this amazing topic.
Self-reliance is also about self trust. It’s the ability to rely on our own powers, judgments, and abilities. A child who is self reliant is able to think for himself and trust his instincts. He shows independence and competence. He uses his resources to cope with new situations or circumstances
that challenge him. With the development of self reliance, your child will trust that he can do it by himself even if it takes longer or it’s a bit challenging. He may even make mistakes. Of course, it can be difficult to watch a child make mistakes.
Stepping back can be a challenge for both parents and teachers. Still, it’s necessary. As our Child Development Specialist Dr. Robyn Silverman, has said, “Self Reliance is a masterful teacher. It encourages trial and error. The greatest lessons learned often come from one’s own mistakes.”
Building self-reliance takes a partnership between the child, the parent, and other important adults in the child’s life. Let’s face it; it’s often easier, quicker, and more skillfully done if we do it for the child. But when we allow him to accomplish a developmentally appropriate task on his own, he gains
confidence and learns that he can do it by himself.
As always, one of the best ways to teach and reinforce Powerful Words is by modeling strength of character ourselves. We can show our children that we can depend on ourselves for many things- whether fixing something in the home or doing challenging tasks for work.
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