This month we will focus on the character concept, “confidence.”
Confidence is a combination of trust, conviction and assuredness. Confident people embody a feeling of inner certainty that problems and challenges will work out as envisioned. They believe in themselves, their abilities, and in those they trust.
When speaking to children, it’s important to delineate the difference between confidence and cockiness or conceit. Confident people are aware of their strengths but don’t feel they need to brag about them for validation. They already have that certainty inside. They can admit their weaknesses– but not in a way that heaps on shame. Rather, they talk about weakness in a productive way that helps them to reach out for help, strengthen their skills and connect with others.
When it comes to goals and goal-setting, confident people follow their passion and try new activities. They are open to meeting new people and are comfortable embracing their own identity even if they’re different from others. They have faith in themselves and their ability to succeed.
A recent study published in the journal of Child Development shows the importance of giving children praise for their efforts (such as “you worked hardon that”) rather than for their personal qualities (such as “you are such a big girl/boy”). The longitudinal research design demonstrated that those children who receive praise for their efforts are more likely to be confident in their ability to improve their intelligence andpersonality through hard work on challenging tasks. These children also used strategies for overcoming failure.
Society can, at times, provide messages that tell children they are not valuable as they are, which can become barriers to confidence. It’s important for our children to be around others who help to build them up rather than tear them down. We are happy to be part of their support system!
We thank you for your support. You are pivotal in helping to make our school one of the best personal development centers in the world.